• Choose your location
Even the most creative people find it tough to find the appropriate location for your first date. Just think about the places for a fine date, what are the places that come into your mind a fine hotel, a tourist spot, theatre etc. I would say, you should drop this entire list of places, don't get formal on your first date, select some nearby coffee shop, art gallery etc where you won't by formal and you can be relaxed. Even if your partner is selecting the place have your say in the decision. If you and your partner are staying far away from each other, select someplace which is suitable for both neither of you should be exhausted for your first date.
• When to go for your first date
Another thing that is as important as selecting the place is deciding on when to have the date. What about a weekend night, then both of you would be free and you won't need to go to work the following day and so can stay out later, doesn't it look bright. Don't think about this for your first date, as most of us do make plans for our weekends in advance, there are many other things that can be done on a weekend rather than going for a date, so our date plan should have to compete with many other things, so even if our date is fine we would have an inner feeling that we could have done something better than going for a date. So for your first date select a week day, as we don't make advanced plans for weekdays. If possible it would be better if we plan for a afternoon lunch during our lunch break as it would be better to keep our first date short.
• Be patient
Always offer a girl a choice of dates and locations and understand when she has reasons for doing other things. All too often when someone says no you automatically assume you are being given an excuse and that the truth lies elsewhere. You assume too much. Let her know that you are interested in her and that when things are better for her in her diary, that you can make some arrangements. Always stress that you are busy too and this will add to your overall appeal. Remember that you too must never be too available otherwise it comes across that you are uninteresting, or even worse, desperate.
• Sort out your job
Women want a man who has some ambition in life. Coasting along as a skateboard instructor is generally not going to win you a real catch (though I'd give it a go, I love skateboarding). Any job is better than none, but knuckle down and sort out some direction in your life. If possible try and look like you have something of a career. If you have a manual job, at least have some plans to work for yourself, and if you already do, then you are on the right track. But know what you are about work wise and have some idea of your future plans because women will ask questions about your prospects. Even if they pretend it isn't important, it is.
• Prepare
The last thing you want is to be sitting having a meal and the conversation dries up, leaving you bored with each other for the rest of the night. Think about your date and what you would like to know about her, and in return what you would like her to know about you. Try and think of any questions that she might ask you, so that you can prepare the answer. You think that it is easy to talk, and that you will not run out of questions to ask, or that you will automatically have the answers. But until you are there and in the situation, you have no idea what it will be like. You can avoid all of this by meeting for a quick drink, then go on to see a film, so you have something obvious to talk about.
• Look your best
Go to a beauty parlour get a haircut, if possible get it styled or just get a regular shave, a professional shave will leave your face looking and feeling great. Men are so often criticized for smelling bad. Get into a regular showering routine so you will always smell fresh and clean. Women appreciate it.
Get some decent clothes and shoes. Women always look at your shoes. Get clothes that fit you, suit you and are contemporary. Buy a nice tailored suit, there is no excuse not to.
Dating Rules for Girls
You can see many articles in web giving dating tips for men and there are only a few articles that help women, so here is my effort to produce a set of rules for women to be followed while dating.General Dating Rules:
• Always look great, whatever your income, age. Gorgeous hair and some lipstick with rags will grab every man's attention. You have the advantage. You are the woman. Look your best as you could meet your man anywhere at any time.
• Do not give him detail portrayal of yourself. A mysterious woman can drive men crazy.
• Keep your dates brief, this would keep men interested. Less is always more.
• Try and stay in shape and involve some fitness regime at a gym. However much you hate it, your men loves your body as much as your mind.
• Let your man pay. If he is interested, he is interested enough to ensure you eat well and get home safely in a cab.
• Always keep a guy waiting and never turn up early. It is a lady's previlage.
• Never be available when he wants you to be. Never be at the end of a phone when he calls and always make him call twice or thrice before replying.
• If he is available Tuesday, you are available Thursday.
• Weekend shopping trips with girlfriends are sacred and not available for dates.
• Never ever talk about previous boyfriends. Your ex-boyfriends are your business only.
• Never assume anything about your date until you choose to know him better. You cannot always tell by looking.
• If any man shows the slightest signs of possessiveness or insecurity, run like the wind. Life is too short for boys.
• If his shoes or hygiene are a disgrace, dump him.
• Never talk too much about your father and how your date measures up in comparison.
• Never ever come across as too available or too desperate. He will run a mile. He is the one doing the chasing.
• If the guy in the corner is gorgeous, go get him and create the need in him for you. Never wait for men to come to you because you may watch him leave with someone else.
• You may well have all the bodily functions of a man, just try not to demonstrate them early on.
• If you want a child, don't mention it on the first few dates.
• Never ask him if you look fat, on your first date.
• Never tell him lies if you are looking for a long time relationship.
• Don't talk about your friends in early stage of your relationship.
• Never ever criticize his mother unless you want to remain single.
• Do not try to be someone you are not. You might have always fancied that high school cheerleader, but it wouldn't work if you try to be her on your date. Your man doesn't want to see some cheerleader. He wants to see and know you and not some wannabe you are trying to come across as.
• Try to be friends with your man. Nothing will work better than being friend with your man and it will also make him feel more comfortable with you. It will allow him to open up to you and he will love you even more for that.
• A little flirting goes a long way to make your man feel in the thick of things. It shows that you have a broad mind, exciting, fun-loving and take humour in your stride. Just make sure you don't overdo it, as it may send wrong signals.
• Talk about his interests and try to be an intelligent conversationalist. You certainly don't want to bore him to death. He will appreciate that you want to know about what interests him and this will make your company exciting for him.
• Work towards building trust, if you have already had many dates with him in the past. Every meeting should facilitate some progress in your relationship and make full use of the beautiful opportunity that Valentine's Day is presenting you with.
• All said and done, remember to give the relation enough time to grow and prosper. Don't jump to conclusions about your man just after the first date, as they take longer than women to bare their heart out. So, just relax and enjoy the time you spend with him. Gradually, you will get to see his kind and affectionate side.
Online Dating Rules:
• Always let them come to you, don't chase them via email.
• Block anyone who annoys you instantly.
• Post the best photo you can find.
• Don't reply to instant messages with clever opening lines.
• Remain aloof and let yourself be chased.
• Always reply to emails at least 3 days after receipt.
• Never provide your real email or phone details.
• Always date safely and protect yourself at every turn.
• Make sure your login name is stunning and sexy, as well as enigmatic.
• Do not login for hours on end. Short, rapid visits are best.
• Do not assume the person you are talking to is destitute or sad.
• Never ever reply to emails on weekends. Wait until a weekday.
• If you don't want to date married men, spell it out in your profile.
• A man who doesn't reply to your email within 3 days should be ignored.
• Make sure your humour levels come across in text.
• Do not chat to hundreds of men at once. The delay in replying is a dead giveaway and your Mr. Right will be off.
• Don't even think about misrepresenting your size or description. They will find out.
• Come across as cool and sophisticated for best results
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