The Second Date-10 Good Tips For You

1. Understand that even though this is a great time to continue the "getting to know you" process, it is not necessarily the time to take six hours together. A good time for a date is three to four hours at this stage and anymore than that puts you in a place where you are too uncomfortable for too long.

2. Continue with some of the principles on the second date that you took into the first such as not discussing sex or exes. These are conversations that are better served for the nightlong discussions and infatuation stages in the dates to come, don't jump the gun.

3. If the first date was uncomfortable or unpleasant and that feeling hasn't gone away on the second date even though you gave it another chance, you probably should end it now. First date jitters are one thing, but the old "fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me" applies here. A third date could be disastrous, just don't try it.

4. Even though you may feel the need to get a little more physical contact on the second date, don't rush anything as it isn't necessary to do so. These things will come as they should, holding hands or playful nudging is okay in the beginning, rushing things makes you seem insincere.

5. It may seem uncomfortable to do so, but the second date is a good place to start mentioning what you think of the situation before the end of the date. Don't overdo it and make them feel uncomfortable, but mention something about your attraction to them physically, emotionally, or intellectually in a complimentary way.

6. This is when you cement the ideals and behaviors that you set forward on the first date. If you opened doors and held out chairs on the first date, do that on the second date as well, if you don't it makes it all seem like an act.

7. While it is good to cement and solidify those things you did on the first date, the second date is about opening up just a little bit more. Tell embarrassing or humorous stories about yourself that depict you in a self-effacing manner, it is endearing and ice-breaking.

8. Stay away from conversations related to religion and politics on the second date unless the date was set up through mutual friends who know you have the same views. These things can be worked out later in the relationship and will only cause discomfort and strife at this point.

9. Everybody has a tendency to be a little uptight and nervous on the first date, so try to open up and be a little more loose on the second date. Joke and make fun of yourself as much as anybody to show that you are a good sport and like to have a good time.

10. Finally, when the second date rolls around you can prove that you were really listening on the first date by following up or referring to first date conversations. This is even better if it is in reference to a current situation like a promotion or graduation that may have happened in between meetings.